tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271225.post1845827117610892459..comments2024-03-04T04:09:12.742-06:00Comments on Quiet Life: Linky Love.Donna Boucherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06699431983937413613noreply@blogger.comBlogger54125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271225.post-70813538213368881152013-06-11T10:56:44.413-05:002013-06-11T10:56:44.413-05:00Sorry if I hurt your feelings. I was replying to ... Sorry if I hurt your feelings. I was replying to Donna, not you, by the way, but since you have inserted yourself I will stand by what I said. I don't have friends who talk badly about their husbands. The most important thing I told my daughter when she got married was to NEVER say anything bad about her husband to her friends or anyone else because there are enough people in the world who will gladly put him down. I don't appreciate women who whine to each other about their husbands. I stay as far from them as I can because it is usually them who has the problem. I have never asked myself even once why I married my husband. Maybe it's a generational thing since you haven't been married half as long as I have. I did read the whole post, but your foul language turned me off. Next time I comment on a blog, I hope it is the blogger who responds, not some other blogger. If you can't take the heat, be careful what you write for public viewing. Snickelfritzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12631235076617656175noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271225.post-14354209034781830742013-06-10T20:35:20.657-05:002013-06-10T20:35:20.657-05:00My 9 yr anniversary was a few days ago, and I whol...My 9 yr anniversary was a few days ago, and I whole-heartedly agree with what Janelle said in many ways. Throwing in the towel seems easy in the heat of the moment, when you feel nothing but despair, regret, anger or emptiness. Counseling helps. Not leaving helps. Sometimes distance and time to think helps. And kids may not be the reason to stay together, but the fact that kids are present makes us think long and hard about the future and how it looks in one scenario (together) vs. another (apart). I found her perspective on that point insightful. <br />As for cussing...eh. I do it a lot. Because I have children, I think about it a lot. I see it as a vice. I would rather someone used profanity to get things off of their chest than to hold it in or go out and find any number of destructive ways to handle their emotions. In many situations, cussing is downright funny and appropriate, in my humble and somewhat twisted opinion. There are so many hurtful, terrible ways to use words...cussing to blow off some steam or inject humor is not so terrible.Andrea B.https://www.blogger.com/profile/03917836206949412580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271225.post-85511813013181590062013-06-10T14:34:09.796-05:002013-06-10T14:34:09.796-05:00Thank you, Donna. I find it so refreshing when pe...Thank you, Donna. I find it so refreshing when people aren't afraid to tell it like it really is. Have you ever read any of Sarah Markley's writing?Robin in New Jerseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07373250627112138763noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271225.post-33722854623613438502013-06-10T12:18:35.852-05:002013-06-10T12:18:35.852-05:00a couple years ago i wrote a blog on our anniversa...a couple years ago i wrote a blog on our anniversary about how we had made it another year... and how sometimes that is better than good enough, sometimes that's cause for a freaking celebration. because it's true. marriage is really hard, harder than most realize. worth it, but hard just the same. but i don't blame meg ryan, i don't base my expectations on movies and books. and when things look shallow and marriage gets hard, i pull out our old letters and cards... and then i feel less sad for myself, and more sad for matthew, because we both have changed, because i see what i used to be for him. and i tearfully apologize to him for not being what i should be, and thank him for fighting this fight with me. and i remember how wonderful he is, and for an hour or so i don't get upset when i have to clean pee off the floor. and this is marriage. this is life. and i am grateful to not have to go it alone. and i love him. <br /><br />http://www.putonlove.blogspot.com/2011/06/new-baby-smell.html<br /><br />http://www.putonlove.blogspot.com/2012/12/my-matthew.html <br /><br />the blog was a fantastic read, and the swearing didn't bother me a bit. (mostly because i swear more than that in my head, but somehow manage to allow only a small amount actually make it to audible words). melinda suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10208684783241672418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271225.post-62822261719066605582013-06-10T11:28:32.659-05:002013-06-10T11:28:32.659-05:00I appreciate your honesty, Christina. I agree wit...I appreciate your honesty, Christina. I agree with you, also. Thank you.<br /><br />Sarah P. from IowaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271225.post-57190347800751833512013-06-10T11:24:25.584-05:002013-06-10T11:24:25.584-05:00Rebekah, thank you for your honesty. I agree.
Sa...Rebekah, thank you for your honesty. I agree.<br /><br />Sarah P. from IowaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271225.post-47363337265559640702013-06-10T11:20:24.545-05:002013-06-10T11:20:24.545-05:00Robin, I will pray for you.
Sarah P. from IowaRobin, I will pray for you. <br /><br />Sarah P. from IowaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271225.post-75900719055251794212013-06-10T10:55:30.050-05:002013-06-10T10:55:30.050-05:00Love and hugs to you today, Robin. And courage. Love and hugs to you today, Robin. And courage. stephseefhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10651078191088887064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271225.post-64642326956512429392013-06-10T09:25:55.308-05:002013-06-10T09:25:55.308-05:00Oh Robin. Big hug coming your way. I'm so gl...Oh Robin. Big hug coming your way. I'm so glad I posted the link. I'm thankful for Janelle's honesty and being willing to say what many of us just couldn't say outloud. Donna Boucherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06699431983937413613noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271225.post-53271273557227214322013-06-10T09:19:49.142-05:002013-06-10T09:19:49.142-05:00sending a hug to you Robin. And prayers.sending a hug to you Robin. And prayers.Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08274481412344071315noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271225.post-91539908308571582832013-06-10T09:13:50.212-05:002013-06-10T09:13:50.212-05:00I just remembered this: Last week all 7 of my chil...I just remembered this: Last week all 7 of my children were here(my kids range from 14 to almost 30.) The older ones asked me which year of marriage is the hardest and I answered, "You're asking me!!!" After almost 31 years of marriage and numerous problems my husband has had over the years every year has been a difficult year!Robin in New Jerseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07373250627112138763noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271225.post-215832810749977662013-06-10T09:06:37.705-05:002013-06-10T09:06:37.705-05:00I love your reply! I love your reply! Robin in New Jerseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07373250627112138763noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271225.post-30788547960763334462013-06-10T09:03:08.619-05:002013-06-10T09:03:08.619-05:00On June 26th, we will have been married for 31 yea...On June 26th, we will have been married for 31 years. It has been VERY difficult. Please pray for me around that time. My husband and I have been separated since October due to his sin~~long story.<br /><br />I have hope for our future and that the years ahead will be God honoring.Robin in New Jerseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07373250627112138763noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271225.post-9170593178780975202013-06-10T08:54:49.072-05:002013-06-10T08:54:49.072-05:00Sarah, forgiveness is essential and can also be ve...Sarah, forgiveness is essential and can also be very hard. Believe me, I know. You have the right attitude!Robin in New Jerseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07373250627112138763noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271225.post-64124376584018035292013-06-10T08:52:54.815-05:002013-06-10T08:52:54.815-05:00Oh.my.goodness. I just read the article. Wow! I am...Oh.my.goodness. I just read the article. Wow! I am speechless. Language aside, good article. Marriage is REALLY HARD and we expect way too much out of it. I have learned that marriage was made to honor and glorify God and I have failed at that miserably. I could go on and on, but I won't. Thank you for posting the this Donna. Robin in New Jerseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07373250627112138763noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271225.post-11116150246492683952013-06-10T08:25:39.612-05:002013-06-10T08:25:39.612-05:00Hi Janelle,
I really did love your post. I thoug...Hi Janelle,<br /><br />I really did love your post. I thought it was well written and funny and touching. That's why I linked it. From previous discussions here in the comments, I knew the swearing would not be everyone's cup of tea, and that is why I warned them. I happen to see the humor in swearing....where other's do not. That's okay. I'm so glad you stuck it out and found the sweetness....I love your honesty.<br />Marriage is so hard and I think about this topic a lot!! Thanks!<br />DonnaDonna Boucherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06699431983937413613noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271225.post-34835950491921143762013-06-10T06:45:42.140-05:002013-06-10T06:45:42.140-05:00How nice to see Janelle's take on things. I th...How nice to see Janelle's take on things. I thought her blog post was dramatic and thought she highlighted the worst moments of marriage so we could all maybe feel a bit better about our own imperfect relationships. And bringing hope to relationships where one partner has unrealistic fantasies of what they should be getting from their spouse. Then ending with a gleeful picture of the two of them, which clearly suggests love prevails and happiness can be yours if you don't fall for the romantic movie traps. The fact that Donna and her sister liked the post (but disclaimer was clear, not the swears) made the post hit home that much more. I liked it, thanks Donna and Janelle.Carol S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/03899522405793498550noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271225.post-29065403267874332972013-06-10T01:36:45.879-05:002013-06-10T01:36:45.879-05:00Donna,
Thank you for linking to my post. I found...Donna, <br /><br />Thank you for linking to my post. I found this through the "stats" on my blog. I'm glad you liked the post, and some of your readers did too. I do swear a lot. Maybe it's laziness, but mostly I think it's because sometimes the only word I want to use is an "f bomb," or some other swear word. It just MUST be there. :) Plus, my academic and professional writing is all swear-free, so my blog is my place to say it however I want. I named it "renegade mothering" for a reason. :) <br /><br />All my best,<br />JanelleJanellehttp://www.renegademothering.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271225.post-30517819473698660542013-06-10T01:30:53.867-05:002013-06-10T01:30:53.867-05:00Ah, Kate. That's not very nice. My husband lik...Ah, Kate. That's not very nice. My husband likes being married to me. At least I think he does - he's stuck around for 12 years! Also, did you read the whole post? Because I basically said the same thing you did... "we had hard times but it just made us stronger."<br /><br />Man, people are mean! And a commenter above called my blog "unsafe!" <br /><br />Sometimes I end up on threads like this and I think to myself "Why are people so mean to a complete stranger?" I mean you don't even know me. I'm just another human being on the planet, trying to survive and get by, sharing a few ideas about a few things I've learned...and yet there are people saying really harsh stuff! It's one thing to have a critical opinion, it's another to say what you did. But I guess I put myself in the line of fire when I write. And honestly, people like you are the minority, and the people I may help with my honesty far outweighs the stab to my gut when I read stuff like this.<br /><br />Janellehttp://www.renegademothering.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271225.post-71064787150226870902013-06-09T22:10:00.117-05:002013-06-09T22:10:00.117-05:00June 28 for us (27 this year!)
DiJune 28 for us (27 this year!)<br /><br />DiDihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15059289426772353330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271225.post-23419824575657769772013-06-09T22:06:46.918-05:002013-06-09T22:06:46.918-05:00June 28 for us (27 this year!)
DiJune 28 for us (27 this year!)<br /><br />DiDihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15059289426772353330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271225.post-75616493199727738972013-06-09T22:00:43.070-05:002013-06-09T22:00:43.070-05:00I'm sorry. I read your link and found it profo... I'm sorry. I read your link and found it profoundly bad and angry sounding. I wouldn't want to be married to that woman either. Sure my husband and I have had some hard times, but it just made our marriage stronger. The way to stay married and stay in love is easy. Be faithful, have each other's back, don't put the children first and don't hold your anger in, but talk or yell it out. Just don't fume inside until you can't take it any longer and give up. And remember why you got married in the first place. Put each other first. I could go on and on what a good marriage is. This woman sounds like she knows a lot of people with really bad marriages. Sad.Katehttp://snicklefritz.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271225.post-50203594632385275522013-06-09T21:41:37.963-05:002013-06-09T21:41:37.963-05:00I'm all about the douchebag. ;)I'm all about the douchebag. ;)stephseefhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10651078191088887064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271225.post-64105662911774513952013-06-09T08:57:30.185-05:002013-06-09T08:57:30.185-05:00Loved this link Donna. Very interesting post and ...Loved this link Donna. Very interesting post and after 25 years of marriage of course it isn't all roses and rainbows. I didn't even mind the swears but I've got a 19 and 14 year old boys with music where the melody is great but I do NOT want to understand what they are saying. (blush) I love your blog and insights and have the darndest time leaving responses (expecially from my iphone), hope this one sticks! Happy Sunday,<br />Carol S.Carol S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/03899522405793498550noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271225.post-77096581366949943952013-06-09T06:59:45.210-05:002013-06-09T06:59:45.210-05:00Thanks Christine for the St. Augustine quote remin...Thanks Christine for the St. Augustine quote reminder. It warms my soul. It was good for me to read your comment. I once made it as far as the backyard fence thinking about running away from a baby that never slept....I was severely sleep deprived. His father was in the house, so I did not leave him alone. And, yes Susan we all need to keep our sense of humor in both marriage and parenting. Off to get ready for early church, like Susan I wanted to come back and see what others thought here. love and prayers, jepAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com